Tension release

I’m sure at one point or another everyone has heard, “you shouldn’t move in with your friends because that’s how friendships end.” That usually happens because when two people are around each other so much they find little things about the other person that they don’t like. And the shielded image of that person you have is changed because you see how the person really is and acts in the daily lives. So don’t think that you’re exempt of that chain of events with your significant other. This is why the first Key to the Door of Happiness is a Tension Release. A Tension Release is an activity or hobby the person has way from the everyday home life and as an individual apart from the spouse. Whether it be with friends or just going to workout at a gym alone or something fun they enjoy doing. This Tension Release should be a regular part of the weekly routine, which will keep things fresh around the house. Before I go any further, one thing I suggest is to NEVER work with your significant other. But if you do, or you met them at work, don’t worry that’s fine. I just wouldn’t suggest it if it’s preventable. Because time apart from each other in the daily routine is also a necessary part of tension release. When you’re around someone 24/7 an extreme level of comfort comes into play where the romantic and/or honeymoon romance becomes a distant memory and before you know it the days become a blur of monotony. The perfect combatant for monotony would be spontaneity. And that spontaneity applies to every facet of the relationship from the physical to the mental. Surprises are a great way to keep things interesting and keep the romance alive for as long as humanly possible. You will be surprised how well things will go if you keep it fresh in the physical realm as well as a few surprise “just because” gifts. Another thing that is often over looked is the women’s appreciation for the man in the relationship. Every gift giving and surprise and just general showing of appreciation for the significant other should not be one sided. As a man, I would love every now and then to be reminded that I’m loved or cherished and to get a little gift or any kind of token of appreciation. Just the thought counts and goes a whole lot farther than you would believe. Tension Release: Keep it Fresh people.

Chasing Perfection (Ch. 1)

Chasing Perfection Chapter 1 For most ventures this pursuit would suffice and would often be looked at as an admirable trait. But when it comes to finding a spouse/significant other, this is often detrimental to your own mission. Going into situations like dating/courting with preconceived notions of how you want them to be and traits they have to have and income they have limits the ability to open up and find someone that matches with you One of the biggest enemies of a good relationship getting started is the fear of Missing Out. Many people are too worried about that when they get taken off the market by this person that “something better” is right around the corner and that they will have settled unknowingly. And ironically, when it’s too late and they break off the relationship they realize that what they had in the beginning is what they needed all along. There was a popular show on TV a while back that starred a Celeb who was in the hunt of a spouse. She was in search of a special person and even had a nice long checklist of things that the man’s traits had to comply with. Several dates went by and her friends were trying to tell her that you can’t search for your special someone with a Map. Because when you’re too busy looking down at your checklist. They might have walked right past you, maybe even twice. When it comes to a checklist, it’s okay to have them, but when you make it you have to put traits that are non-negotiable and traits that you can compromise on. Because let’s be real, you yourself aren’t the perfect person so you can’t expect that of anyone else logically. Just be real with yourself, acknowledge you have blemishes and expect that in others. A good example of this is how men enjoy playing video games, like Call of Duty. Women can’t stand Call of Duty and the fact that it’s something we love to do and it doesn’t involve them at all. But the way they have to look at it is, if that’s most you have to worry about with your man is that he plays a little Xbox every now and then, then you’ve actually got it pretty good. In reality, it could be a whole lot worse. Look at it like this, when he is at home playing that, you know where he is and know he’s not doing anything he shouldn’t be. Decide on the traits you would desire in a mate and set a few that you would be able to compromise on and you should be able to attack the dating scene with a sensible plan of action.

2010 in Review

2010...one of the best worst years I have ever lived. I know that is an oxymoron, nevertheless it remains to be the truth. While, I experience no real major setbacks, there were personal setback in my "social" life. While I didn't lose any loved ones, something I loved died. While none of my friends passed away, a lot of my relationships did. Some were for the better, some for the worse. But that's all apart of living a full life. Things like that happen and it's those things that help build our character. Therefore, in turn, it's how we handle those events that helps shape our character and increases the potential for growth in that aspect. So while I digress, I progress.
The death of my academic career and the birth of my post-adolescent phase is majorly this highest point of the year. A lot of rough nights and long nights, reading, researching, highlighting, and note-taking all whipped together in a bowl to make a successful dish called a bachelor's degree.
But I won't put all my chips in one bag. A degree isn't a magical piece of paper that comes with a salary. While it was a huge accomplishment, after being asked to leave St. Joseph's, I know a lot of them did not believe I could do that. For example, I wrote one of my superiors back at the institution the same semester I happened to make the dean's list. Ignored. I just felt really good about what I had done and wanted to let them know I was getting my act together. Well, I digress, but after all that I find myself torn between the potentiality and the actuality of what is to come.
A man has a lot on his plate. When you're brought up, you have certain qualities instilled in you. Different things you receive from other people, those who "know better." All in effort to mold you into a better person. Once you're a grown man, you're expected to get a good job, make a good living and find a wife and have kids all while being a productive and respectable figure in the community. That's a lot for one plate.
So while, we all anticipate what is to come in 2011, I reminisce on what once was. And 2010 was just another chapter in the Life of Noah Douglas.

Money = Happiness?

The saying goes: Money cannot buy you happiness. That's true right? Sure. Its very true. But I say that money amplifies certain emotions that a person experiences. Say for instance a person is lonely and longing for some companionship, being broke on top of that increases the sadness of that emotion and makes it seem worse than it is. if a person feels really stressed about their academics, not having as much income as you would like increases the stress level.

So if money isn't the key to happiness, then what is? I think I have an idea of what it is. I believe that Love and/or being wanted/needed is where happiness lies. Because if you take a look at good relationships the person always says "they are my better half" or "the best thing that has ever happened to me." So I believe that the key to a person's happiness is in positive emotions from other people towards them.

So, next time you talk to someone or one of you're friends talk about how bad everything is going and how their fed up with certain things. Ask them, ask them about what's wrong and about their love life. I guarantee that they talk about bills or lack of finances and a lack of intimacy in their personal life.

Peace.

Best MC in the Game Right NOW??? Easy......

Yes.. Black Thought, Hands down...

RANDOM mess

Whats Good...

I know I have not been on top of this blog whatsoever. My Bad. Let me bring this back in with a little comedy. Check out this video.

HAHAHA. Those were 100 pound dumbbells by the way.

I used to be able to do them once...but hey...its whatever.

In recent NBA news the pre-season has officially begun. I'm really anxious to see how a couple of players perform in the NBA. Those two players are Blake Griffin and DeMarcus Cousins. Blake Griffin was my projected rookie of the year the year he was drafted, so I'm going to stick with him again. His injury was misdiagnosed so he's had a lot longer to work on his game and just become a better all around player. So I'm expecting him to do WORK.

DeMarcus Cousins is just an intriguing player to me. His play style kind of reminds me of how I play the game. Good footwork down low, good mid range jump shot...big body. So I'm kinda anxious just to see how effective he will be once he makes it to the big league playing against the big boys. I think he has the chance to be really good and being drafted to the Sac-town Kings will give him the chance to play early and often. Because face it Spencer Hawes is a bum LOL. Sorry Spence, you're not really a bum...but He is not really that great.

That's it for right now. Holla back at ya boy.

Been a while

I just wanted to use this to check in right quick. I haven't made a blog in a minute so I just wanted to let anyone who checks these out to know that I'm still alive. I have been slippin on my pimpin when it comes to p90x, but i just bought resistance bands so im gonna try to go through it that way and use the bands and my perfect pushups :). Thats gonna killme I already know.