Tension release

I’m sure at one point or another everyone has heard, “you shouldn’t move in with your friends because that’s how friendships end.” That usually happens because when two people are around each other so much they find little things about the other person that they don’t like. And the shielded image of that person you have is changed because you see how the person really is and acts in the daily lives. So don’t think that you’re exempt of that chain of events with your significant other. This is why the first Key to the Door of Happiness is a Tension Release. A Tension Release is an activity or hobby the person has way from the everyday home life and as an individual apart from the spouse. Whether it be with friends or just going to workout at a gym alone or something fun they enjoy doing. This Tension Release should be a regular part of the weekly routine, which will keep things fresh around the house. Before I go any further, one thing I suggest is to NEVER work with your significant other. But if you do, or you met them at work, don’t worry that’s fine. I just wouldn’t suggest it if it’s preventable. Because time apart from each other in the daily routine is also a necessary part of tension release. When you’re around someone 24/7 an extreme level of comfort comes into play where the romantic and/or honeymoon romance becomes a distant memory and before you know it the days become a blur of monotony. The perfect combatant for monotony would be spontaneity. And that spontaneity applies to every facet of the relationship from the physical to the mental. Surprises are a great way to keep things interesting and keep the romance alive for as long as humanly possible. You will be surprised how well things will go if you keep it fresh in the physical realm as well as a few surprise “just because” gifts. Another thing that is often over looked is the women’s appreciation for the man in the relationship. Every gift giving and surprise and just general showing of appreciation for the significant other should not be one sided. As a man, I would love every now and then to be reminded that I’m loved or cherished and to get a little gift or any kind of token of appreciation. Just the thought counts and goes a whole lot farther than you would believe. Tension Release: Keep it Fresh people.

Chasing Perfection (Ch. 1)

Chasing Perfection Chapter 1 For most ventures this pursuit would suffice and would often be looked at as an admirable trait. But when it comes to finding a spouse/significant other, this is often detrimental to your own mission. Going into situations like dating/courting with preconceived notions of how you want them to be and traits they have to have and income they have limits the ability to open up and find someone that matches with you One of the biggest enemies of a good relationship getting started is the fear of Missing Out. Many people are too worried about that when they get taken off the market by this person that “something better” is right around the corner and that they will have settled unknowingly. And ironically, when it’s too late and they break off the relationship they realize that what they had in the beginning is what they needed all along. There was a popular show on TV a while back that starred a Celeb who was in the hunt of a spouse. She was in search of a special person and even had a nice long checklist of things that the man’s traits had to comply with. Several dates went by and her friends were trying to tell her that you can’t search for your special someone with a Map. Because when you’re too busy looking down at your checklist. They might have walked right past you, maybe even twice. When it comes to a checklist, it’s okay to have them, but when you make it you have to put traits that are non-negotiable and traits that you can compromise on. Because let’s be real, you yourself aren’t the perfect person so you can’t expect that of anyone else logically. Just be real with yourself, acknowledge you have blemishes and expect that in others. A good example of this is how men enjoy playing video games, like Call of Duty. Women can’t stand Call of Duty and the fact that it’s something we love to do and it doesn’t involve them at all. But the way they have to look at it is, if that’s most you have to worry about with your man is that he plays a little Xbox every now and then, then you’ve actually got it pretty good. In reality, it could be a whole lot worse. Look at it like this, when he is at home playing that, you know where he is and know he’s not doing anything he shouldn’t be. Decide on the traits you would desire in a mate and set a few that you would be able to compromise on and you should be able to attack the dating scene with a sensible plan of action.