Chasing Perfection (Ch. 1)

Chasing Perfection Chapter 1 For most ventures this pursuit would suffice and would often be looked at as an admirable trait. But when it comes to finding a spouse/significant other, this is often detrimental to your own mission. Going into situations like dating/courting with preconceived notions of how you want them to be and traits they have to have and income they have limits the ability to open up and find someone that matches with you One of the biggest enemies of a good relationship getting started is the fear of Missing Out. Many people are too worried about that when they get taken off the market by this person that “something better” is right around the corner and that they will have settled unknowingly. And ironically, when it’s too late and they break off the relationship they realize that what they had in the beginning is what they needed all along. There was a popular show on TV a while back that starred a Celeb who was in the hunt of a spouse. She was in search of a special person and even had a nice long checklist of things that the man’s traits had to comply with. Several dates went by and her friends were trying to tell her that you can’t search for your special someone with a Map. Because when you’re too busy looking down at your checklist. They might have walked right past you, maybe even twice. When it comes to a checklist, it’s okay to have them, but when you make it you have to put traits that are non-negotiable and traits that you can compromise on. Because let’s be real, you yourself aren’t the perfect person so you can’t expect that of anyone else logically. Just be real with yourself, acknowledge you have blemishes and expect that in others. A good example of this is how men enjoy playing video games, like Call of Duty. Women can’t stand Call of Duty and the fact that it’s something we love to do and it doesn’t involve them at all. But the way they have to look at it is, if that’s most you have to worry about with your man is that he plays a little Xbox every now and then, then you’ve actually got it pretty good. In reality, it could be a whole lot worse. Look at it like this, when he is at home playing that, you know where he is and know he’s not doing anything he shouldn’t be. Decide on the traits you would desire in a mate and set a few that you would be able to compromise on and you should be able to attack the dating scene with a sensible plan of action.